Alright, so, blogging always seemed like a lot of fun to me, so I’m giving it a shot. The whole point of this blog is to mainly talk about my everyday life and try to help educate adults on how they can better grasp ways to relate to their teenaged relations. Today in class, something huge occurred to me:

Adults actually think teens will listen to everything they have to say, no matter what.

This is entirely untrue. Adults (mainly teachers) constantly struggle to keep the attention of their teenagers. Take my French teacher, who we’ll call Ms. R, as an example. Ms. R is a bright, capable woman who has been teaching French for several years. She has had many classes, but none she claims are as badly behaved as my own. Students constantly talk out of turn which not only annoys the teacher and other students (meaning ME), but also creates a classroom situation in which the teacher must constantly stop to tell everybody to be quiet.

No matter what she tries, Ms. R just doesn’t  seem to grasp just why students think it is okay to speak out of turn about the most random of subjects. The answer is so incredibly simple that I don’t blame her for not thinking of it sooner:
She allows them to do so.

At the beginning of the year, she firmly established that though she is our teacher, she is also here to be our friend. Although this is a fantastic method for making students like a teacher, some take the method too far and become, without realizing, a pushover teacher.

We all know this teacher because we’ve all had her and taken advantage of her. You know the one: sweet demeanor, not much homework, always a smile and a “ready-to-go” attitude. Often, these teachers become so concerned with being nice that they themselves forget to punish bad behaviors.  Unruly children (especially teens) need a structured reward/penalty system in place if they are to respect people and/or behave properly in class. My friend’s History teacher, for example, uses a system of sarcastic remarks, good-natured jokes at the students and the occasional detention to keep his classroom in line. This method proves to be very effective. Not only do the kids adore this teacher, they learn in his class and keep quiet (yes, they PAY ATTENTION and LISTEN). Thus, a positive learning environment is created for the students.

I’m not saying that being your teenagers friend is a bad thing. Really, it’s not! Many teenagers at least appreciate the efforts of an adult trying to relate to them and develop friendly relationships. However, one has to be careful not to go too far out of the “Adult Zone” and too deeply into the “Friendship Zone.” While it is good for teenagers to see both in adults, it really is important to remind them every once in a while that adults can be our friends, but if we speak out of turn one more time they will give us detention.

~Such are the thoughts of a bipolar teenager~

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